Friday, July 27, 2012

Strengths and Weaknesses...Well More Like, Things I'm Ok At & Things I'm Distressingly Bad At"

      Oh, no!!... "Can we please just talk about what Im fabulous at??" We all have them, things that we do well and things that we struggle with. Yesterday and today I was reminded of two of mine. 

    I got the most unexpected and best compliment yesterday from  my friend Pastor Paul. He sent me a message and asked me if I would answer some questions for a series that he is doing at his church. I tuned in last Sunday and it was really good and I'm looking forward to the next two weeks. You should head over to The Life Fellowship blog and check out the video series "Let's Talk About [Shhh...]." Yep, a church is talking about sex in church!!  Well, this weeks part of the series focuses on singles and Pastor Paul asked me if I would answer a few questions (He's the reason for this blog post haha! After I messaged him my reply he told me that it really should be a blog post and here it is). Here's what he wanted to know:
Paul Burke
Hey Sylvia, would you help me form some thoughts for a point I'd like to make this weekend? 
Would you tell me why you think you've been able to maintain your standards for dating, and remained single, while others have "settled" or even "compromised" and ended up in a relationship that is not what they wanted? 
Would you also tell me what you think are the reasons you're ok with being single rather than being in a relationship that would be a compromise of your hopes and convictions? 
And finally, what would be your best advice to a single lady who wants to remain pure, and not compromise her Christian convictions when it comes to dating and falling in love?
Any help you can give me would be great, thanks!

    This was my response
      First, thanks for asking me! And secondly, Wow!!! Not easy questions.... I guess I just reached a place in my life where I decided that I wanted Gods will no matter what even if that meant staying single. I refuse to settle for someone that doesn't have the same convictions as me. I know that the person I marry is the 2nd most important decision that I will make in my life. I have also seen so many people that were strong Christians who married someone who didn't have the same beliefs and in most cases the strong person fell away. I dont want to sacrifice my salvation just for a relationship.
My friends have always told me I do single well Haha...its not easy at all when but it has it perks! I guess the thing is to look for the good, enjoy this time, and try not to slap people when they once again tell you to "just wait on Gods timing" or "it always happens when you're not looking."

As far as staying pure...lots of prayer, good friends, and don't even think about dating anyone that you couldn't marry!! I dated a guy for three months and as soon as I found out that we disagreed on what I feel is a major conviction in my life I broke up with him. I'm not going to try and fix people or change them, only God can do that. Be up front and clear in all of your dating relationships on what will and will not happen.
Single girls, don't become the bitter single girl! But also don't become the girl always on the hunt. Yes, I'm available and looking but I'm living life and have fun and hoping he comes along....Soon!!!! I hope this helps!?

     Now I will, as always, be very honest with you...sometimes being single SUCKS and other times its GREAT!! I'm maybe a lil selfish and like that I don't have to answer to anyone but then there are times that I wish I had someone to share things with. I guess its catch 22 haha!!! But it's not just me, I have a lot of great girlfriends who are single. It's not like there are a lot of great guys beating down our doors. So it's not like Im really having to resist a lot of temptation or anything. 
     I guess thats the meaning behind my title. I wouldn't really say that it's one of my strengths, Im doing ok. Think of it this way, if you were in the desert and lost weight because there was nothing to eat was it because if your great dieting skills and willpower?? No! It was because there was nothing around to tempt you! LOL!!!! I thank God He has left me in the desert called Buras. hahaha!!!! 

   So that was kind-of the thing that I would say that I'm ok in...but sadly my bombdiggty self does have some major shortcomings and one of them is in the area of spennnddd... yep, my name is Sylvia,        

A bit much for my bank account
but still fun to look!
and I am a shopaholic. I have debt that I want to pay off and I do    so good for so long then its like I have a meltdown! I fall off the wagon and then Oh Lord! I did Dave Ramsey for awhile and was doing so good! I even was using the envelopes and cash. Debt it just so hard to pay down when you are still spending. And man if I don't go to town then I don't spend. Well that used to be ok, but now with online shopping well... I swear, you know how those gym rats and runners talk about how they feel after a good workout well that is how I feel when I'm shopping! How sad right?? HAHA It could be worse and I could be addicted to alcohol or drugs...or *gasp* the gym!!! But it's really something that I have to focus on. I can't keep this up I want to beat this and get out of this debt. I'm a pretty competitive person and this thing kicking my butt is really starting to get on my nerves and get to my pride. 

     I of course have a whole list of distressingly bads that I could just go on and on about...but well, that's another post another day haha! 
     So what are your "Ok's and Distressingly Bads??" I sure hope I'm not the only one out there?? haha!!! 

~Till Next Time :)

What I've been listening to... Enjoy!

Sunday, July 22, 2012

"Made Me Think of You..."

Isn't he the cutest!!
Love that he has a blanket
like his
mom and nan syl :)
     I had two people tell me that today followed by two very different follow ups. I got a text this morning from my cousin who just moved to CO. She was texting me to tell me that lil bear was eating cereal and was picking out and only eating the marshmallows and leaving the rest of the cereal. Kid after my own heart haha!!! She said this made her think of me...yep, Im a marshmallow picker! Most of my friends know of my Lucky Charm weakness and I have even found a place online that sells just the marshmallows, which of course saves me a lot of time and the little bit of guilt that I may have as I dig for just the marshmallows...oh what the heck, who am I kidding? There's no guilt LOL!!!

     You know it feels good to have someone tell you that something that happened to them, or something that they happened to come across in their typical day caused them to think of you. My second time this happened to me today made me laugh!! It had been raining today and I had not really been too much. This is what I did with most of my day

I doodled...

...and doodled some more

...and some more doodling. 
I could say that some of this was for work since I will use some of it as examples for my students when I introduce the sketchbook project to them the first week :)

...and the whole time Mr Fitz napped. 
He has wild nights and likes to catch up on his sleep during the day
     So like I was saying...(haha my friends used to hate when I did this and they would have to remind me that I must have been having the first half of the conversation in my head) anyway...(sorry a bit of my ADD seems to be kicking in) Ok I will focus and finish this story!!! So I'm doodling, as you saw above, and I get a call from one of our guy teachers. Seems he was in the process of moving and got his truck stuck and had been trying for sometime to get unstuck. So he goes on to explain that he thought of me and that he knew that I knew, or had people in my family, that drove big trucks and could come pull him out. LOL!!! I cracked up after I got off the phone. Funny stuff..."Im stuck and it made me think of you and the fact that you know people with big truck"...awesome!!! hahaha!!! Well one of the other guy teachers with a truck happened to be around (we have teacher housing in our parish) and was able to get him out. Thank goodness since it seems all of my big truck family and friends were in town or not able to help. But still made me laugh!

Here are a few other things that friends have Pinned and said that it "Made me think of you"(Oh and if you haven't found out about Pinterest then you are sooo missing out!!!!! Go check it out!!)

Lyd said "

Ang said "I could see Sylvia rocking this outfit!"

Jessica said "Sylvia this would look great on you!!"

Courtney said "syl this is so for you"

Courtney also said "this is for you"

Mrs Green Said "Homemade Glitter Play Dough Recipe. For my friend at school, you know who you are, lol."   Yep, I have a bit of a glitter obsession and I'm out and proud about it :)

Marlena said "so getting a dinosaur!! This one is for you Sylvia"

Rach said "haha made me think of you :)"

     So yeah...thats what tends to bring me to mind. I would say it's a quirky oddness that makes me so memorable :D That's better then someone saying, "oh man I had my car repoed and it reminded me of you." Or, "I saw someone chew someone else out over something dumb and it made me think of you."
My students tend to think I'm a bit crazy (good if they think your'e a lil off then they're not sure if you are going to snap or not and keeps them on their toes haha!!) and they will see something crazy and will every once and awhile tell me "Yeah, that made me think of you." Some of my students even tried to set me up with the army recruiter at school...they said he was manly, had his own place, a job, was a neat and orderly, in great shape, and drug free (yes, it would seem they interrogated the man) and all of those things made them think of me. HAHA!! How sweet, even if they should stay out of my business and not try and set me up with anyone!! They have good intentions, for some reason it freaks them out that I'm 32 and single....ahhhh the shock and horror!!    

Anyways...  some things that make me think of you:

      Whenever I eat McDs ice cream and french fries it always makes me think of my friend Shannon.
Summers in the pool remind me of my friend Amy and the many summers spent in her pool...good times!!! Sleeping in till noon or later makes me think of Bri. The color purple (in any shade and on pretty much on anything) still reminds me of Rach, even if thats not her color anymore it was for so very long. Math reminds me of Sammie, velociraptors & pink will always make me think of Courtney, lace & painting make me think of Danielle, and clumsiness, Puss in Boots face, grammar nazi and nautical outfits make me think of Heidi. 
     Jelly Beans remind me of my Dad, good cooking & holidays make me think of my Mom. Lydia...there are so many!!! Every time I get a cat scratch, see a space heater (haha I can still see your toe on fire LOL!!), see Mom big silver bowl (when you had to soak in it haha!!!), when I eat something good, when I see my cute niece, when I see one of those Parish trash cans haha!! The list could go on and on haha!!! Today I thought of you, Mr Fitz was playing with my markers it reminded me of the time when you and I took markers and colored the dog. Also made me think of Max and when him and I decided to cut the cats whiskers, poor thing ran into walls at night for awhile after that and Mom was not happy! haha!!! 

     So tell me, what makes people say, "Made me think of you," about YOU???  What are some of the things that you want to remembered for??   Please share :)

~Till Next Time 

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Phases, Fades, A Period, Obsession...Or Whatever You Want To Call It

     Yes, I am one of "those" people. Those people that go through phases and periods where they do something or like a particular thing. As you can see I haven't been in my "lets blog all the time" phase...yes, I did have one. My sister has been giving me a hard time lately about the fact that she says I'm in my "Nautical Phase." Yes!!! I do love pretty much all things nautical, I will confess this! But I have always loved the water, loved being on the boat, loved the beach, and the rest of it is just so darn cute!!! I live in a very small town, which I have finally embraced and have come to love, that is surrounded by yeah, we gosh darn-it aren't in Nantucket but I can still pull off the boating stuff around here :) I just have to give it that Bayou spin...I mean we are, "Down the Road!"

     Growing up I had a serious penguin phase that I went through. It was serious and bordered on obsession. You see my family does not help with these phases at all. Let them find out you like something and oh Lord! You will get just about everything to do with that item or things that have that item on it....just ask my cousin Bri. She happened to mention that she liked frogs and that was it, they stared buying her frogs left and right. She quickly realized her blunder and let them know that she: 1.) Did like frogs. 2.) Did not need frog salt n pepper shakers, frog figurines in every pose possible, frog shirts, or frog wedding cake topper. haha!! Love my family sooooo much and they love to give, it's just you better be careful what you mention you like around them :) Now that we are older they do ask us before buying. Just the other day my mom asked me if I liked some nautical fabric that she could make me a quilt out of. It was nice, but not my taste.

     Well, I guess that I've learned to embrace who I am and well....I just don't care! Phase, fade, period, or not I don't have to justify my likes to anyone. I like what I do and what makes me happy.

There are some things that have stayed consistent and have not just been a passing phase:

I've had some of the same great friends for as long as I can remember

I have slept with my blankie for 30 years and only been with out it for 2 nights (haha! yep) No pic for this they say, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." haha!!!!

I have always loved to go! Was going to summer camp when I was just 5. Still Love to travel!!

My mom always said I was a lil students tell me the same thing.

God, how I miss paste!!!! and yeah, I did pretake of it a few time. haha!!! I have always enjoyed being creative and have always taken art classes. I NEVER in a million years thought that I would be teaching art one day! Its always amazing to me how God knew just what I needed when I didn't even know it existed. I know right, Oh me of little faith right?? Yep, I never knew there was a job where a grown-up got to play with clay, glitter, glue, Sharpies, paint, paper, all in the name of work...but I do :) We call it art class and it rocks. I also get to decorate for all kinds of parties and events and tell lil people what to do...doesn't get better then this haha!!

I like my CDO and it comes in VERY handy in the classroom!! My sister used to get so mad when she would try and borrow my clothes and I could always tell because she never put stuff back the right way. You see my closet is organized by color, sleeve length, (and before getting on my meds) by brands. I also used to not be able to go to sleep if there were shoes out. Everything has a place and a home and should be in it. Labels are our friends and color coding is heavenly! Teaching has gotten me to be a lil more flexible (and the meds help too Im sure haha!!)

And finally, the one thing that is very much apart of me and has always been consistent: My Faith
I have had seasons but never strayed, never lost sight of my convictions (not to brag at all, it's only thanks to His grace). Yes, I do struggle with trusting  Him completely and in His timing for my life. But I have learned over time that when I do things on my own I just screw it up. In the end, my life is "Father Filtered" and things are so much better when I let Him lead me and guide me.

Now for a few things that Im in Love with right now!!!

Love this quote!!!

I want a compass rose tattoo

Monogrammed Anything!! Its a Southern thing

Nautical sailing bracelets thats all I will do for now
Oh, I almost forgot!
I add an addition to my house, Mr. Fitz. His full name is Fitzwilliam Darcy Latham (or course he had to have a full name so that we could monogram his stuff haha!!!) 
I decided it was time to get a real pet. He's a lil hyper gray kitten that seems to think its fun to stalk me and that my shoes are his chew toys.
Finally taking a break...he looks so sweet and calm like this Haha!!!

Till Next Time ~